What is Memory Support?

As we travel through life, memories shape our identities, ground our experiences and connect us to loved ones and cherished places. However, holding onto these treasures becomes a struggle for some as memory loss reshapes their world. If you’re facing this with a loved one, know that you’re not alone and that memory support can be a powerful resource. Discover the benefits of memory support for families experiencing cognitive decline.

Memory support offers more than preserving the past. It’s about protecting dignity, providing comfort and cultivating a sense of belonging. It can also be a lifeline not just for those navigating the complexities of cognitive decline, but also for their families.

To help you and your loved one on this journey, we’ve created a guide containing questions to help you understand the benefits of memory support, memory support communities and how to get the most out of a visit.

What Is Memory Support? Benefits and Overview

Imagine a place where your loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia can feel safe, secure and cared for every day. That’s what memory support communities offer. Residents can enjoy private or shared apartments, with highly trained staff assisting with daily activities like meals, housekeeping, laundry and personal care. The staff also leads activities for dementia patients designed to stimulate cognitive function and cater to residents at various stages of their condition.

What to Expect in Memory Support Communities

In addition to enhanced security features, you’ll likely notice that newer communities are purposely built to reduce stress, confusion and disorientation among residents. For example, when walking around a community, don’t be surprised if everything looks “plain” because the walls and floors will likely show minimal design patterns (if any).

You might also notice no “dead ends” to a hallway but somewhat curved walls to encourage movement toward a familiar spot. Some outdoor spaces could also feature figure 8 or looping walking paths to allow residents to wander safely in a designated space.

Moreover, what might appear to be a confined living area to us could translate into a generous space for your loved one. This cocoon-like sanctuary envelops them in safety and security, uniquely their own.

Caregiver Guilt

Perhaps you’re grappling with the idea that it’s too soon to think about memory support for a loved one. Or maybe you feel it’s already too late. There’s no right or wrong time to explore the options.

This is a tough time. We recognize the profound weight of this decision for caregivers like yourself, often accompanied by guilt or the sense that more could have been done. It’s important to acknowledge that these emotions are natural and understandable. Remember, you’re already doing the best you can. Instead of fixating on aspects beyond your control—including your loved one’s memory loss—consider redirecting your focus toward meeting them where they are mentally and emotionally.

Work to create moments of connection, like sharing a meal or engaging in activities together, reminiscent of times before. Embrace the role of being their child by offering companionship, support and love without the burden of worrying about every detail. By embracing this approach, you can find solace in cherishing the present and nurturing the bond you share, enriching their lives and yours.

Questions You Really Want to Ask

You’ll have plenty of questions as you start visiting different communities. A community’s answers say a lot, but how do you discern a concerning answer from a good one? We can help. Here are three questions worth asking and the kind of answers you should expect.

Question: How are choices like food and activities offered to people? (Or tell me how you offer options to my mom/dad?)

Why You’re Asking: This question sheds light on the functional side of things and relationships. People with memory loss get overwhelmed by too many choices. You want to know how a community and the staff approach its residents. Their answer should be something like, “We get to know your loved one, understand what makes them happy, and make suggestions based on that information.”

For example, if a resident doesn’t know what to eat for dinner but tends to select the soup, a staff member can focus on those types of offerings.

Question: How do you partner with my family or other loved ones in providing care?

Why You’re Asking: It will take time for memory support staff to get to know your family member. They won’t know anything until it happens, and that’s where you come in. Their answer should suggest they “can’t do this without you.”

Memory support staff should establish a partnership with the family—keeping lines of communication open and transparent—so they can understand your loved one’s quirks and habits. For example, if your family member has issues with eating at certain times (that might conflict with the community’s mealtimes), it’s good for staff to know how they can approach them and personalize a food schedule.

What’s important here is that you want to believe and trust that these people always have your loved one’s best interests in mind.

Question: What would my role be if my loved one moved here?

Why You’re Asking: The answer to this question should be “Just be their child.” Once your loved one successfully transitions to memory support, you can rest easy knowing that they’re in a safe, secure and comfortable place. Your life can normalize again, keeping in mind that your loved one would want you to be happy.

Is Memory Support Right for Me? Making the Decision (Is memory support right for me?)

Choosing the right memory support community takes time and careful exploration. If you like what you see in your initial scheduled visit, then drop in unannounced at different times of day so you can see the community in action. Look for places that prioritize fresh air, natural light, good food and a lively atmosphere. Notice how residents interact with staff and each other, and get a feel for the overall environment.

This will help ensure a community aligns with your loved one’s needs and preferences. By evaluating each option thoroughly, you can find the best fit for their care and well-being.

Still don’t know where to start? Reach out to us at 410-638-6087 to learn more.